Taking time out for couples to focus only on each other is not only fun and romantic, it is crucial to the health of the marriage.
“The way life is structured today, children are far more likely to strain a relationship, which is why couples need to take time away from the kids,” said Donna Schmitz, Outagamie County director for think marriage.com, based in Green Bay. “Relationships work best when they are felt and seen as a unified team. Shift the balance away from kids and chaos to calm and soothing and your senses are refreshed as well as your feelings of intimacy for your spouse.”
Schmitz describes getting away as “decompressing your relationship. The messages you each receive are that you are loved and appreciated. The bond between couples is always strengthened during those intimate times of being alone.”
A heavy snowfall two days before they arrived gave the Roths exactly what they wanted — a beautiful winter get-away.
The Roths, who have children ages 4 and 6, chose not to take advantage of typical spa amenities such as massages, pedicures and other pampering services. Instead, they had meals brought to their room and enjoyed each other’s company while cross-country skiing.
“They made it that way so that you had your privacy,”
Schmitz encourages couples to be creative and spontaneous when spending time together. She and her husband enjoy what she calls a “spa experience” just by visiting High Cliff State Park and hiking around the woods for an hour. “Plenty of privacy and the sounds of nature are relaxing and refreshing.
“The way couples stay close and avoid the kind of surprise that feels like betrayal is by taking the time to talk about their hopes and dreams together.”
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